tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post7138896120184845867..comments2023-12-30T19:34:10.283+00:00Comments on Older Mum (In A Muddle): Nothing and EverythingOlder Mumhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-67869980839259896222013-04-20T10:57:20.217+01:002013-04-20T10:57:20.217+01:00Tell me about it! Thank you very much! :o).Tell me about it! Thank you very much! :o).Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-49024247403580664002013-04-19T21:39:41.276+01:002013-04-19T21:39:41.276+01:00They are enough to drive a girl to chocolate aren&...They are enough to drive a girl to chocolate aren't they? brilliant you did everything right!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-59643327921889205032013-04-19T19:42:47.884+01:002013-04-19T19:42:47.884+01:00Thank you so much - that was a really kind thing t...Thank you so much - that was a really kind thing to say. And exactly - she is a three year old doing what all three year olds do! And I think your reaction if something similar happened to you is very measured and sensible :o). Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-64047648047159270262013-04-19T16:14:58.665+01:002013-04-19T16:14:58.665+01:00You are such a wonderful mother and she is a lovel...You are such a wonderful mother and she is a lovely little girl who, like all other 3 year olds, is pushing you as far as she can to test what works for her to get her way. You handled the situation perfectly. I've not had a run-in with a daft old woman in a supermarket yet but think the only way to deal with these situations is to smile sweetly and move along before pushing it firmly to the back of your mind :-)Grenglishhttp://grenglish.co.uknoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-77722380291743907032013-04-18T10:12:32.052+01:002013-04-18T10:12:32.052+01:00You're kidding me? Where do they get off on al...You're kidding me? Where do they get off on all this? How totally, totally rude !?!?! Pyjama days are where it's at - we've had loads recently! X.Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-19121414511063128292013-04-17T22:04:01.505+01:002013-04-17T22:04:01.505+01:00I once had an elderly couple follow me pretty much...I once had an elderly couple follow me pretty much the whole way round Tesco telling me how I should deal with a toddler tantrum! "When she gets home, mummy will be writing to Father Christmas and telling him not to bring you any presents, won't you mummy?" and "You may even get a smack if you carry on, won't she mummy?" etcetera. Nightmare. <br /><br />Pyjama days rock! Ours were in their pyjamas till three o clock last Saturday and only got changed cos we decided to go to the pictures. x <br />Flossing the Cathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16298951261351587626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-9421469632851361882013-04-11T17:06:11.847+01:002013-04-11T17:06:11.847+01:00No need to apologise :o) Thank you Anya - I didn&#...No need to apologise :o) Thank you Anya - I didn't feel that great at the time. I gave Little A a strong, firm message in the end - so far we haven't had too much trouble since. Think we are going to have a few more pyjama days! XXX. Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-34304638429222218902013-04-11T17:03:19.045+01:002013-04-11T17:03:19.045+01:00No, was wasn't very nice - I could really have...No, was wasn't very nice - I could really have done without her scathing opinion - I was having a hard enough time as it was trying to manage Little A. Thank you so much for your kind words and support! X.Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-64579939822713628712013-04-11T16:58:26.073+01:002013-04-11T16:58:26.073+01:00Like your style with the PJ'S!!!! I think me a...Like your style with the PJ'S!!!! I think me and Little A should have a few more days like that - just really relaxed. And that lady was very unpleasant - I hope it was just a bad day she was having and not usually this cantankerous! Thank you Alpine Mummy! :o). Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-21706414422500713292013-04-10T19:52:30.865+01:002013-04-10T19:52:30.865+01:00So sorry to have only just seen this - you ARE a w...So sorry to have only just seen this - you ARE a wonderful mother and Little A is just a normal threenager doing her thing - good for you for teaching her a lesson YOUR way - not the way of the old bat - which could possibly have been with one! Hope you're feeling better by now and BTW FYI I don't know of ANY mums out of the house by 8am, even for the school run. Make the most of those lie ins - they're gone before you know it! Much love and Respec' XXXOlder Single Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16752771952921898184noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-41594743738217960182013-04-09T21:43:00.879+01:002013-04-09T21:43:00.879+01:00What a total cow. And presumably either childless ...What a total cow. And presumably either childless or forgetful. All children have their meltdowns, and judging from the families I see weekly in the supermarket, many of them like to have them in public. There is no shame, other than that laid on our already heavy shoulders by strangers. You are a wonderful mum. Most of us are! We can only do our best xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11580191273349590067noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-80527774829759602042013-04-08T20:42:42.445+01:002013-04-08T20:42:42.445+01:00Wow, what a cow, that horrid lady! I can never be...Wow, what a cow, that horrid lady! I can never believe that people think it's appropriate to make such thoughtless remarks. No-one's ever done it to me (at least not that I've heard - I am quite oblivious to my surroundings most of the time...). In my head I like to think I'd totally give 'em a tongue-lashing right back - in reality, though, I know I'd stand there open-mouthed before bursting into tears.<br /><br />Alpine Girl and I stayed in our PJs all day yesterday. Alpine Boy has been known to do it too. My thoughts are that as long as they put different PJs on before they go to bed (or at least wipe the Weetabix and Play-Doh off) then you are ticking all the parenting boxes... Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-18666904007749449672013-04-08T13:03:48.597+01:002013-04-08T13:03:48.597+01:00So glad to see you back in blog land again! The wh...So glad to see you back in blog land again! The whole episode was very trying and tiring. And you are probably right, she may have no experience of handling children. I find the only way to deal with a tantrum is to let it blow itself out. And equilibrium has been restored! :o). Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-56287648939099102452013-04-08T12:57:08.491+01:002013-04-08T12:57:08.491+01:00Oh no - poor you, that must have been really, real...Oh no - poor you, that must have been really, really horrid, and what unpleasant criticisms you had to had to put up with - how totally rude. Thank goodness there was kind lady there for you too. Absolutely - respect to all Mother Hens! :o). Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-86099936726522196532013-04-07T20:41:00.748+01:002013-04-07T20:41:00.748+01:00Oh no!
What a tough day - tantrums are so stressf...Oh no!<br /><br />What a tough day - tantrums are so stressful at the best of times, but with an added head cold... arrgh!<br /><br />It sounds like you approach tantrums in the same way as I do - a neutral face and trying to carry on as normal. It does take alot of energy, the pretence of not being stressed.<br /><br />As for the mean woman, it sounds as if she hasn't had any experience of dealing with small children. I'd love to hear how on earth you're supposed to 'discipline' a child out of a tantrum - sounds more like fanning the flames to me!<br /><br />I hope equilibrium has been restored, I hope head colds have gone and I hope that the mean lady is thoroughly ashamed of herself!mammasaverhttp://www.mammasaver.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-32775102322886230562013-04-07T15:51:38.524+01:002013-04-07T15:51:38.524+01:00I had a very similar experience with my 4 year old...I had a very similar experience with my 4 year old son last week. We were on a bus though - a full one at that. For almost the entire 25 minute trip home I had angry shouts of 'I hate you mummy, you are not my friend' and lots of tears. There was an awful lot of tutting and whispers of 'uncontrollable brat' and 'he needs a good smacking' from the other passengers but luckily there was a lovely lady sat in front of me. Kind and understanding.<br />Most people should keep their opinions to themselves, dealing with tantrums is difficult enough without them making us feel like we're doing something wrong. Good on you for keeping calm and much love to all the mother hens out there! Lornahttp://mummyandherboys.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-61000735353625940122013-04-07T15:39:39.847+01:002013-04-07T15:39:39.847+01:00I guess I have to give vulture woman some leeway -...I guess I have to give vulture woman some leeway - who knows what her circumstances are, although gut feeling tells me she wanted to use her years of wisdom to tell me what to do. I like your approach, and saying what you think - often people don't expect a response! Mother Hen was fab! X. Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-77456316791140847872013-04-07T15:35:56.191+01:002013-04-07T15:35:56.191+01:00I cannot believe that parents get so much public f...I cannot believe that parents get so much public flack, and I can't believe that you were also on the receiving end of it too. I find it quite abusive actually - not in the best interests of anyone.<br /><br />Well done you for handling the tantrum in the cafe so well, and anyway, they calm down eventually. And what a lovely thing of that Nun to say - bless her - I would have cried too.<br /><br />But I don't blame you for thinking you were being judged - after all that is what you'd grown used to! <br /><br />Thank you for such a lovely comment Jazzy. X Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-18182891392259167332013-04-07T15:29:19.439+01:002013-04-07T15:29:19.439+01:00Wasn't she just? She was such a tonic. And I a...Wasn't she just? She was such a tonic. And I am going to take a leaf out of your book - if I see another mum in the same position, I will offer a reassuring smile and words too! Thank you for your support! :o).Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-88424130482277548792013-04-07T14:51:26.824+01:002013-04-07T14:51:26.824+01:00I like Mammasaurus style! Lol!
Vulture woman soun...I like Mammasaurus style! Lol!<br /><br />Vulture woman sounds like a mean, nasty person...or maybe she is losing her marbles and didn't used to be so mean. Either way, not nice for you. Hope you are ok now. My eldest was always, always, always a nightmare in the supermarket...without fail, he would through a wobbla so I became tough to the tuts, dirty looks and snidey comments and would totally blank anyone who dared tut me...or I would simply say "How rude of you!" and just glare. They would soon hang their bullying heads, lol. <br /><br />How lovely was Mother Hen! xxxEmma@christmascupboardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07939624431408633740noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-468813282017196552013-04-07T11:36:01.408+01:002013-04-07T11:36:01.408+01:00Oh, I feel your pain and admire your resilience. T...Oh, I feel your pain and admire your resilience. There are ALWAYS 75 yo's (or 35 going on 75 yo's) about and they are simply not.worth.the.space.in.your.head.<br /><br />With a child on the Autistic spectrum I've had horrendous public meltdowns, when he was younger. Truly horrendous and quite a number of them. And very similar reactions to the one you received.<br /><br />The best one involved me, having grown a neck the thickness of a Rhino hide, bringing him into a favoured and familiar cafe only for him to start screaming and crying for no apparent reason (probably anxiety and smells around him.) I calmly sat us at a table, ignored queuing and watchful eyes and carried him to the window where we simply spent time looking out and calming the tears/screams down.<br /><br />I saw 2 old ladies, 1 a nun, constantly watching me.<br /><br />I eventually sat down with my child and dared her with my eyes to reproach me. Nun or not she'd get a mouthful as I'd had enough of wrongful public perceptions of my child's beahviour. (how is ANY child going to learn to behave in public if we don't let them go through a meltdown and teach them??)<br /><br />Eventually the old ladies were leaving. The nun approached. I steeled myself and looked her straight in the eye. 'You are a wonderful mother and he is such a beautiful child' said she...as I felt the tears rising.<br /><br />Teaching me that sometimes perceptions can work the other way!<br /><br />xx Jazzyjazzygalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04069218745940412457noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-1448103307136706362013-04-07T11:33:40.334+01:002013-04-07T11:33:40.334+01:00What a wonderful lady - a true angel, arriving jus...What a wonderful lady - a true angel, arriving just when you needed her. I have had many moments like that and even if you don't actually hear disapproving words, the looks are often enough. I try to be the one who nods and smiles in an understanding manner now. Although mine have moved on from this stage, we still have our challenges, just of a different kind. Very wise decision not to allow any treats - the harder option but better for her long-term. Very well written post :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02610843552921892203noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-71684367662549481492013-04-07T08:51:09.855+01:002013-04-07T08:51:09.855+01:00Now that made me laugh - why didn't I think of...Now that made me laugh - why didn't I think of that solution in the first place :o) Ah well.... people eh? Just hope I never bump into her again! :o). Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-1018427479738319642013-04-07T08:49:11.677+01:002013-04-07T08:49:11.677+01:00Thank you very much Ellie! It certainly does put y...Thank you very much Ellie! It certainly does put your faith back in human kind when receiving kindness like that - she felt like a guardian angel. Thank you. X. Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4269818854687226287.post-27969717328779366672013-04-07T08:47:42.493+01:002013-04-07T08:47:42.493+01:00Thank you very much for your support - that's ...Thank you very much for your support - that's good to know. And good to know it's not just me that likes a lazy morning. I'll bet that puppy has you up in the morning! X.Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.com